Compliments are such things that help to find contact with people and establish good relations with them, which means they are important. And also enjoyable! Of course, if this is a skillful compliment, to the place and most importantly - sincerely.
In developed countries, where business has long ceased to lock up on shuttle trips to Turkey and create fraudulent joint-stock companies, business communication is a philosophical discipline, with a good mix of psychology.
History knows examples of the growth of the well-being of huge corporations practically on the same optimism and the ability to communicate with the people who founded these corporations. The most cynical bag of money will look at you as if you lost your brother in childhood, if you can just put him to yourself.
And how does our sympathy for man begin? As a rule, from the fact that he skillfully emphasized some of our dignity. Here and further, we declare - the ability to make a compliment (and not rude to flatter) touches the necessary, hidden strings of the soul of the addressee to which it is addressed - the essence is half the success.
Here are a few simple rules of this pleasant affair: First, the compliment should be as specific as possible. You must be very clear about what you liked about this person. The cut of the eyes, the combination of hair color with a new suit, successfully applied cosmetics or character. Otherwise, our “psychological focus” will be sewn with white threads and turn into that same unwanted flattery.
For practice, try to use the phrase "because." It will help you to concretize your thoughts and, more importantly, to focus more deeply on the interlocutor. For example: "Lisa, you are an intelligent woman, because you always know how to distribute your working time so efficiently."
Notice, the compliment has ceased to be groundless, and the notorious Lisa flushed, while just a statement of her mind would not have made even half the impression. By making such a sincere compliment, you not only help a person to feel your respect, you (surprise!) Understand why you respect him, and this helps you to feel the sincerity of what has been said. And this is very important. Insincerity is always noticeable, and unpleasant.
Second, avoid focusing only on the obvious. Pay attention to hidden qualities. “You performed so well! It's amazing how you managed in the five-minute report to cover this topic so exhaustively! Our department fights over her third week. ”
Remember if there was a case in your life when you felt particularly flattered? Surely it was when someone managed to notice some kind of
Well, finally. Spend a week to make compliments to everyone in a row, for practice: the secretary, the waiter, the janitor, the clueless colleague (him too!), Customers, anyone. After a week of experience, you can try to make it and the boss. And continuing to sow compliments, you will feel for yourself an illustration of the well-known principle “Welcome returns a boomerang.”